Child of mine, I will never do for you that which I know you can do for yourself. I will never rob you of an opportunity to show yourself your ability and talent. I will see you at all times as the capable, effective, powerful creator that you’ve come forth to be. And I will stand back as your most avid cheerleading section. But I will not do for you that which you have intended to do for yourself. Anything you need from me, ask. I’m always here to compliment or assist. I am here to encourage your growth, not to justify my experience through you…..Abraham
Excerpted from a Law of Attraction Workshop in Seattle, WA on Sunday, July 4th, 1999
For these past 2 years, I have been guided by a personal creed not to define my children as how society and our others see them.
After all these years of coping with 2 children with Autism, I have gotten weary of saying ‘No’ every minute of the day. I have gotten tired of asking for compliance when their body and brain responds differently to their social environment. I gotten exhausted of being angry and being in a constant mode of “battleaxe mom.” I have dropped the notion that I will be a “alphamom” with children who act normal. I simply don’t care anymore about what other people think. I cannot educate every person in my life about autism. I cannot force myself to teach something they are not ready to learn.
How my kids see me as their mother matter more to me than any of other person. I don’t want them to see me as someone to fear but rather someone to run to.
I refuse to allow my children to think that being autistic is a bad thing. I want them to be happy with who they are. I do not want to defeat autism; that would be to say I would be defeating my sons and why in the world would I want to break their spirit?
I want to help them overcome it and learn to function in between the dimensions that they traverse through day in and day out. If others think that they are lost their own world, I want my boys to know that Mommy’s world is always the best world to come home too.
I want to build their self-esteem and allow them to continue thinking out of the box. I embrace their uniqueness. I embrace everything about them, stimming and all.
hi, your blog is very encouraging. I have a brother has an autism disorder and it’s a relief to know that there’s someone who feels the same way like i do..
hi. i was amased of you guys. its good to think that you cared for those angels.Im john and I’m currently studying as a future sped teacher. I can sense and learned how difficult for those children being born here in the Phil. I can see that there are least oppurtunities for developmentally aided children here. I am actually hoping that after i graduated our country can offer better education for them.;)